Falling In Love - Is It True Love or Infatuation?
Falling in love - someday it will happen to you. You will find
yourself suddenly falling in love and it will amaze you.
You can’t run away from it. Love eventually catches up with
everyone. It may be sooner or later. Whatever the time, however
long it takes, you can be absolutely sure someday you will fall
head over heels in love with someone.
But that is not the scary part.
The part that scares most people is the fact that love sometimes
tend to be blind - or so it seems.
The truth is, true love is hard to come by. Real love is rare.
When you finally find something that seems like true love, you
grab it with both hands. You invest everything you’ve got in it.
Unfortunately, you may find out months later that it isn’t real
love. You have been chasing a dream!
That brings us back to the really scary part. Love tends to be
blind. People falling in love tend to be irrational and
illogical. The love emotion takes over. Thereafter nothing else
matters.
Why is this scary?
The answer is simple. Love can be destructive. Love, blind love,
can ruin your life.
Yes, some kind of love is blind love. This kind of love is
infatuation.
True love or real love, is constructive and upbuilding. True
love is realistic, compassionate, considerate, unselfish,
practical and down-to-earth.
Blind love or infatuation is unrealistic, selfish, and
destructive.
When falling in love, ask yourself what kind of love you are
falling into. Is it true love or infatuation? Is your love based
on unselfish and realistic expectations or on a fantasy?
Consider an example of how blind love, infatuation, can be.
Sharon was from a decent and wealthy home. She was an
undergraduate who had everything she wanted. She was
astoundingly beautiful and well-trained and cultured.
Understandably, suitors came in droves.
Her father’s wealth poured her way. So she was rich in the
accepted sense of the word. The suitors asking her hand in
marriage were just as rich. Many had an enviable social status.
However, Sharon just wasn’t interested. Marriage wasn’t in her
books yet. And when she decides to get married, she would marry
the man of her dreams. So she said.
Eventually, Sharon fell in love. Unfortunately, her lover was a
rude shock to everyone including her parents.
Sharon’s boyfriend was a heroine smoking cult boy with an
attitude. He wasn’t exactly crazy about her. But she footed his
bill and paid his way to smoking haven. So he put up with her.
Sharon, on the other hand, was madly in love. She saw something
in him she hadn’t seen anywhere else. Her boyfriend, Larry, was
broad shouldered, tall, tough, raw, bold, unrelenting, and
daring. He could stare death in the face and not bart an eyelid.
Her boyfriend was a real man!
Sharon was madly in love with Larry and there was no stopping
her. Her parents could not understand why their rich and
well-breed daughter fell in love with a poor heroine smoking
gangster. Her friends couldn’t undertand either.
Can you feel Sharon’s love? Do you understand why this gentle
girl fell for a hoodlum?
Sharon fell in love with a dream - a bold, daring, no nonsense,
dare devil guy. He had the looks and the heart of a lion. She
admired that bravery, that manly boldness. Soon that admiration
turned to love. And there was no stopping her.
However, she was on the wrong road.
True love is not based on physical attraction. Physical
attraction eventually fails as people get older and age. What
counts most is spiritual virtues - your lover’s endearing
personality.
A heroine smoking gangster will eventually get into trouble and
land himself in jail. A cultist gangster takes delight in
beating people up and formenting trouble. Sooner or later, if
they get married, she may become a battered wife.
Do you get the point?
Infatuation is blind, physical, destructive. True love is
clear-sighted, upbuilding, refreshing.
True love, real love, is based on realistic expectations and
facts. It is selfless and works for the good of her partner.
Infatuation, on the other hand, doesn’t care about reality. It
focuses on the physical and immediate gain.
Evaluate your feelings properly before continuing with that love
relationship.
Relationships based on true love lasts forever. Relationships
based on infatuation are usually temporary and momentary. That
is the very reason why some marriages last two weeks, some seven
days and still others, a lifetime.
The difference is true love. Real love is true and lasts forever.
Thinking of falling in love?
Make sure it is real love. Evaluate your lovers potentials in
relation to your desires and reality - what is known and proven
to make relationships last.
Hey, fall in love the right way. It’s your life. It’s your
future. It’s your happiness at stake.
